Parenting Book
It's OK Not to Share

TarcherPerigee; Penguin, 2012
ISBN 9781585429363

Ready for respectful parenting? Discover the book that has helped thousands of families reject worn-out habits and bring renewed joy to life with young children.

All feelings are OK. All behavior isn’t.

“The most engaging, validating and filled with Aha moments of all the parenting books I have read over 41 years.” – BJ

For signed, personalized copies, order from Horizon or Brilliant Books.

 

It’s OK Not to Share shines the light on commonly accepted practices and flips them upside down. You’ll discover how to help your child develop generosity -- by not forcing her to share. How to help your child find friends -- by not making her play with everyone. How to practice kindness -- by not saying sorry. And how to teach literacy in unlikely ways -- say, during a temper tantrum.

It’s a celebration of play, but not a free-for-all. Learn how to set the right limits and accept all feelings. Solidly based in child development, this book is a critical guide for young children and the adults who love them.

29 Renegade topics include:

  • Coping with wild emotions
  • Rough-and-tumble play
  • Sharing and long turns
  • Creativity and free play
  • Sibling jealousy
  • Action, power and weapon play
  • Social rejection and friendship skills

Available in paperback, ebook, audio book and five languages.

Reviews

“An insightful, sensible and compassionate book full of downright revolutionary ideas.”
~ Salon.com

“One of the Best Parenting Books of the year,” ~Parents magazine reviewer

“For some, reading her book will be 350 pages of hard-core affirmation. For others it will be a challenge to be broken up into small manageable bites. Her 29 renegade rules might rock the boat. They might make you uncomfortable. Regardless, they’re grounded in solid theories of child development.”
~ Ooey Gooey Lady, Lisa Murphy

“Bold. Unconventional. And downright useful!”
~ Anthony T. DeBenedet, M.D., coauthor The Art of Roughhousing

“Renegade Rules will resonate with what you know to be true, speak to what you want most for your children and teach you how to achieve it. Don't let this one slip off your reading list.”
~ Dr. Becky Bailey, author of Conscious Discipline

“I’m loving this book! Grab it, and, if you must, hog it all day. The chapter titles are more enticing than ice cream flavors. This book is sanity embodied.” ~ Lenore Skenazy, founder of Free Range Kids

“Provides immediate, sanity-saving answers to tough parenting questions. I highly recommend it.”
~ Michael Gurian, author of The Wonder of Boys and The Good Son

 “Did you read the title and think, what the heck? Me too. Not only did I read it to figure out the title, I underlined about a third - it’s that good.”  ~ Melissa Taylor, Imagination Soup

What Readers Say -  Teachers

“This book is hands-down the BEST book I’ve read when it comes to caring for children. As an in-home childcare provider, I care for many young children. Now they take turns and tell others when they’re done. Absolute must read!”
– Kay

“I have been working with kids for 16+ years and have never read a better description of how to set limits. I’ve had thousands of hours of training, literally, and nothing comes even close. Needless to say, you have changed a mind that has been set for years. Truly impressed!”
- Hope

“The perfect book to bring parents into our world. I have a hard time not jumping up and down and screaming AMEN after every sentence.”
– Kisha

“The most engaging, validating and filled with Aha moments of all the parenting books I have read over 41 years. It’s become my ‘Bible.’ I give a copy to every new family who enrolls.” – BJ

“I LOVE it! You have helped me so much in my daycare, it is priceless. Kids play and figure stuff out on their own now. It is amazing. I have so much less fighting, it is unbelievable how much a difference this book has made.”
– Juliana

“I bought more than 20 of this book to give to my parents in the preschool. They love it too!” - Tina

“We’ve opened a school and are using your book as the core of our philosophy. We’d love to buy your book by the case so every family reads it and lives it!” - Katie

“Love, love, love this book. It takes us from our place of resistance to being able to change our perspective. It will become a parenting Bible.” - Vicki

What Readers Say - Parents

“I’m on my fourth copy of your book. I keep giving mine away to friends and family.”
– Gretchen

“The results are magical. I love it so much I made my husband read it, bought it for my best friend and gave it as Christmas gifts to my son’s preschool teachers.”
– Elizabeth

“I have gone through a lot of parenting books. This book is a gem. My parenting attitude has been completely changed after reading it.”
– Deepthi

“I’d say crying has decreased in my house by upwards of 80%. No more yelling. My husband has now started reading it, and his relationship with the kiddos is benefiting and so is our marriage. The ideas are simple. The results are phenomenal.”
– Molly

“I ordered It’s OK Not to Share and it has utterly wrecked my productivity for the day. I meant only to flip through it, but I’m reading the whole thing. It’s wonderful! This is definitely up there with Haim Ginot and Siblings without Rivalry.”
– Leann

“You have given me the gift of better parenting. It was not modeled for me as a child. I love your book. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.”
– Amy

“This book will keep me up all night. Incredibly brilliant! And I am not a mother who has ever put much stock in a parenting book. I can’t wait until my kids have a disagreement tomorrow just to apply the renegade rules.” - Peggy

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It's OK Not to Share

TarcherPerigee; Penguin, 2012

ISBN 9781585429363

 

Ready for respectful parenting? Discover the book that has helped thousands of families reject worn-out habits and bring renewed joy to life with young children.

All feelings are OK. All behavior isn’t.

“The most engaging, validating and filled with Aha moments of all the parenting books I have read over 41 years.” – BJ

 

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